Beyond Conventional Wisdom

Conventional wisdom teaches that the heart is weak and fragile. From beliefs such as, “The heart is mushy and unmanly” I learned to stifle my sensitivity. I grew into a control freak from beliefs such as, “Being open leads to being taken advantage of.” Beliefs such as, “Heartbreak is devastating” led to clamping a lid on emotional giving.

Distrusting my heart, I developed my athletic, sexual and intellectual abilities on the road most traveled to fame and fortune. Except for rare occasions, such as those magical moments of falling in love, I kept my sensitivity hidden behind protective walls, (Even though my story represents a masculine perspective, I know that women also learn to keep their hearts safely tucked away.)

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